Updated: Mar 20, 2020
By Mia Handshin
I thought I’d be immune. But I caught it too. It is, after all, pretty virulent right now.
Watching news of essentials “stockpiling” last week with curiosity and, admittedly, also some judgement, I was determined to evade the panic.
But after becoming aware of the nationwide cancellation of mass gatherings on Friday last week, I had a knee-jerk reaction to my sons' request to attend the Primary School Family BBQ that evening.
Fuelled by anticipatory anxiety (or, perhaps, an over abundance of caution), I told them I was feeling reluctant to take them as previously planned. Understandably, they were crushed. Mr 6 just wanted to listen to his teacher sing and Mr 11 to hang out with mates. I felt like a colossal party-pooper!
After taking a deep breath, getting present with my body and taking stock of my internal state, I recognized that I'd just had a fear-based reaction. So I took the opportunity to "balance my thinking" and agreed to take the boys along to the BBQ with some precautions in place.
Whether as a parent, or in any leadership context, it's never easy to admit that we may have gotten it wrong at first. Ultimately, however, this experience, and my reflection on it, was a gift because it generated a whole lot more compassion. For all of humanity right now. Plus a valuable new perspective about what's going on around me.
At LeadersHP we've resolved to offer some “thought leadership” at this complex and curious time, on how we can all take leadership from the inside out, and in particular, boost our physical and psychological immune systems.
This is about supporting ourselves so that we can continue to serve and support others. Be that as parents, partners or as global citizens. Lifting our consciousness in leadership so that we can be the leaders we want to see in the world right now.
If you’ve noticed that you’re feeling a little off-centre, a bit wired or edgier right now, it can help to understand some of the brain science behind it.
In our work with leaders and teams, we regularly share the research referred to in “Managing with the Brain in Mind” written by Founding President of the Neuro Leadership Institute, David Rock. Rock explains that when we experience something unexpected, a part of our brain linked to our survival instinct registers a potential threat. Our brains prefer the efficiency of knowing what’s next.
“Uncertainty registers as an error, gap, or tension: something that must be corrected before one can feel comfortable again…Not knowing what will happen next can be profoundly debilitating because it requires extra neural energy…diminishes memory, undermines performance, and disengages people from the present.”
Having awareness about what was going on internally for me at the time I was making decisions about the Family BBQ enabled me to lead myself out of reaction and into response.
So, in the midst of this collective uncertainty, what can we do to support and “soothe our systems” so that we can return to balance and “be present” for ourselves and those around us?
Practising mindfulness is a key strategy that we can employ during times of stress, as well as apply over time to develop greater resilience. It's what helped me as I was mentally racing ahead to all the possible future consequences of taking my boys to the event. People who are higher in psychological resilience are also healthier; have lower blood pressure, sleep better, and have stronger immune function.
We recommend a quick and powerful mindfulness exercise using your body to “anchor” you in the present moment. Here’s how-to:
Inside Out tip #1: Come to Your Senses
Become aware of the space you are in right now. Notice 3 things you can see around you. Name them, like a whisper in your mind, 3 times.
Next, close your eyes and notice 3 things you can hear. Name them. 3 times.
Then notice and name 3 things you can feel; such as your clothes touching your skin, your body being supported by the chair you’re on, or internal sensations. Name them too.
Being present with our bodies is vital right now. In our team, we’ve spoken about how much more mindful we will all be from now on, because of the context that's been created by Corona virus, about the impact we can have on ourselves, and potentially others, when we fail to take the time to rest when we’re ill.
Despite confronting this lesson earlier in my life, I’ve become painfully aware over the last week or so of how I’ve continued to be driven by an unhealthy “soldier-on” mentality. This has involved me coming to work at times when I'm not 100% well. It's propelled me to continue “doing” and pushing my body when it's signalling a need to stop. Sound familiar?
Looking at my beliefs around this, patterns of thinking and behaviour, then setting new intentions and making them explicit with my team will help me, as a leader, to be accountable for making more conscious choices in the future.
Another way to bolster our resilience is to intentionally generate “positive emotions”. Joy, gratitude, love, wonder, awe all release awesome, feel-good, neurochemicals which counter the impacts of stress. It can seem like a tough task to invoke these feelings when we are anxious or stretched. But according to Psychologist Barbara Friedrickson, developing the capacity to shift our state can be incredibly beneficial because they produce “the fuel for resilience”.
Inside Out Tip #2: Focus on Appreciation